Onboarding Questionnaire

Written a few weeks before baby girl was born, in response to the prompt “write about a time of blissful ignorance” <3

• Name?

• Date of birth?

• Do you look like me?

• Is that all?

• What do you need?

• Will it be too much?

• Will you sleep easily?

• Will you be hungry?

• Will you get full?

• Will you be safe?

• What will make you giggle?

• Why?

• What will you love the most?

• Who will you love the most?

• Do you already?

• What have you been up to? Anything?

• What do you know that I don’t?

• Will you always need to be held?

• Will you always need to be in motion?

• What will you enjoy?

• What goes through your mind before you have a language for it?

• Will we know where each other ends and begins? Or will we have to find out?

• Will you remember any of this?

• Then does it matter?

• When will our relationship start to count?

• What will you be the most curious about?

• What will you be the most eager to learn?

• Will you trust easily?

• Are you anxious to begin your life?

• Did your name really come from you?

• Where have you been?

• Will you like the dogs?

• Will you think you are one?

• Will you still like music?

• Was I right about you liking music?

• Will you be tall?

• Will your hair be curly, like your dad’s?

• Are any of your little toes longer than your big toe?

• Will you be right on time?

• Have you had anything to do with all of this?

• Will you like spending time with me?

• Will you like your dad more than you like me? Will he deserve it?

• What will make your eyes go wide?

• What will make you bounce up and down?

• What will make you squirm?

• What will your squeals sound like?

• Have you really been crying in there all this time?

• What sounds will you remember?

• Will you move even more once you’re out?

• What will you remember about our house? Our yard?

• Will you make friends easily?

• Do you know who your friends might be?

• Will you pick favorites? Will it be obvious?

• What will you destroy?

• Will you want everything I have?

• Will you love me back? When?

• Could you answer me now?

• Have you already?